What is it that you want?

Why is it so hard to define what we want?

For me, it's hard to say what I want due to years of not actually getting what I asked for. So, now, it's very difficult to ask at all.

In addition, even when we have a good general idea of what we want, it's hard to articulate the particulars and see the possibilities for the future.

One suggestion -

Draw or write out a vision of what you want to create, then examine that description to see what isn't completely right yet. Sometimes it's easier to figure out what we want when we look at what we don't want or what isn't perfect yet.